Marriage Chapter 21

מְצִיאַת הָאִשָּׁה וּמַעֲשֵׂה יָדֶיהָ לְבַעְלָהּ. וּמַה הִיא עוֹשָׂה לוֹ. הַכּל כְּמִנְהַג הַמְּדִינָה. מָקוֹם שֶׁדַּרְכָּן לֶאֱרֹג אוֹרֶגֶת. לִרְקֹם רוֹקֶמֶת. לִטְווֹת צֶמֶר אוֹ פִּשְׁתִּים טוֹוָה. וְאִם לֹא הָיָה דֶּרֶךְ נְשֵׁי הָעִיר לַעֲשׂוֹת כָּל הַמְּלָאכוֹת הָאֵלּוּ אֵינוֹ כּוֹפָהּ אֶלָּא לִטְווֹת הַצֶּמֶר בִּלְבַד. שֶׁהַפִּשְׁתָּן מַזִּיק אֶת הַפֶּה וְאֶת הַשְּׂפָתַיִם וְהַטְּוִיָּה הִיא הַמְּלָאכָה הַמְיֻחֶדֶת לְנָשִׁים שֶׁנֶּאֱמַר (שמות לה כה) "וְכָל אִשָּׁה חַכְמַת לֵב בְּיָדֶיהָ טָווּ":

A husband is entitled to [any ownerless objects] discovered by [his] wife, and the proceeds of her labor. What [type of work] must she perform on his behalf? Everything follows the custom of the country. In a place where it is customary for women to weave, she should weave. [In a place where they] embroider, she should embroider. [In a place where they] spin wool or flax, she should spin. If it is not customary for women in that place to perform these labors, he may compel her only to spin wool; [wool, but not flax,] because flax damages [a woman's] mouth and lips. [This occupation is chosen because] spinning is a task designated for women, as [implied by Exodus 35:25]: "And all the skilled women put their hands to spinning...."

דָּחֲקָה עַצְמָהּ וְעָשְׂתָה יוֹתֵר מִן הָרָאוּי לָהּ הַמּוֹתָר לַבַּעַל. הָיָה לוֹ מָמוֹן הַרְבֵּה אֲפִלּוּ הָיָה לָהּ כַּמָּה שְׁפָחוֹת אֵינָהּ יוֹשֶׁבֶת לְבַטָּלָה בְּלֹא מְלָאכָה שֶׁהַבַּטָּלָה מְבִיאָה לִידֵי זִמָּה. אֲבָל אֵין כּוֹפִין אוֹתָהּ לַעֲשׂוֹת מְלָאכָה כָּל הַיּוֹם כֻּלּוֹ אֶלָּא לְפִי רֹב הַמָּמוֹן מְמַעֶטֶת בִּמְלָאכָה:

If a woman exerts herself and produces more than would be expected of her, her husband is entitled to the extra amount. Even when her husband is very wealthy and even when the woman has several maids, she may not sit idle, without work. For idleness leads to lewdness. [Her husband] may not, however, compel her to work for the entire day. Instead, according to the extent of his wealth, her obligation to work is minimized.

הַמַּדִּיר אֶת אִשְׁתּוֹ שֶׁלֹּא תַּעֲשֶׂה מְלָאכָה כְּלָל יוֹצִיא וְיִתֵּן כְּתֻבָּה שֶׁהַבַּטָּלָה מְבִיאָה לִידֵי זִמָּה. וְכֵן כָּל אִשָּׁה רוֹחֶצֶת לְבַעְלָהּ פָּנָיו יָדָיו וְרַגְלָיו וּמוֹזֶגֶת לוֹ אֶת הַכּוֹס וּמַצַּעַת לוֹ אֶת הַמִּטָּה וְעוֹמֶדֶת וּמְשַׁמֶּשֶׁת בִּפְנֵי בַּעְלָהּ כְּגוֹן שֶׁתִּתֵּן לוֹ מַיִם אוֹ כְּלִי אוֹ תִּטּל מִלְּפָנָיו וְכַיּוֹצֵא בִּדְבָרִים אֵלּוּ. אֲבָל אֵינָהּ עוֹמֶדֶת וּמְשַׁמֶּשֶׁת בִּפְנֵי אָבִיו אוֹ בִּפְנֵי בְּנוֹ:

When a man takes a vow that prevents his wife from doing any work at all, he is obligated to divorce her and pay her [the money due her by virtue of her] ketubah. [The rationale is that] idleness leads to lewdness. Every wife is obligated [to perform the following household tasks] on behalf of her husband: to wash his face, feet and hands, to pour him beverages, to make his bed, and to do his bidding - e.g., to bring him water or a utensil, to remove an article from his presence, or to perform similar tasks. She is not, however, required to do the bidding of his father or his son.

וּמְלָאכוֹת אֵלּוּ עוֹשָׂה אוֹתָן הִיא בְּעַצְמָהּ וַאֲפִלּוּ הָיוּ לָהּ כַּמָּה שְׁפָחוֹת אֵין עוֹשִׂין מְלָאכוֹת אֵלּוּ לַבַּעַל אֶלָּא אִשְׁתּוֹ:

These tasks should be performed only by a man's wife alone. Even if she possesses several maids, these tasks are performed for a man only by his wife.

יֵשׁ מְלָאכוֹת אֲחֵרוֹת שֶׁהָאִשָּׁה עוֹשָׂה לְבַעְלָהּ בִּזְמַן שֶׁהֵן עֲנִיִּים וְאֵלּוּ הֵן. אוֹפָה הַפַּת בַּתַּנּוּר, וְעֶזְרָא תִּקֵּן שֶׁתִּהְיֶה אִשָּׁה מַשְׁכֶּמֶת וְאוֹפָה כְּדֵי שֶׁתִּהְיֶה הַפַּת מְצוּיָה לָעֲנִיִּים. וּמְבַשֶּׁלֶת אֶת הַתַּבְשִׁילִין. וּמְכַבֶּסֶת אֶת הַבְּגָדִים. וּמֵינִיקָה אֶת בְּנָהּ. וְנוֹתֶנֶת תֶּבֶן לִפְנֵי בְּהֶמְתּוֹ אֲבָל לֹא לִפְנֵי בְּקָרוֹ. וּמְטַחֶנֶת. כֵּיצַד מְטַחֶנֶת. יוֹשֶׁבֶת בָּרֵחַיִם וּמְשַׁמֶּרֶת הַקֶּמַח וְאֵינָהּ טוֹחֶנֶת. אוֹ מְחַמֶּרֶת אַחַר הַבְּהֵמָה כְּדֵי שֶׁלֹּא יִבָּטְלוּ הָרֵחַיִם. וְאִם הָיָה דַּרְכָּן לִטְחֹן בְּרֵחַיִם שֶׁל יָד טוֹחֶנֶת:

There are other tasks that a woman performs for her husband when they are poor; they are: to bake bread in an oven - Ezra ordained that a woman get up early and bake bread so that there will be bread available to give the poor. She should cook food, wash clothes, nurse her child, place straw before her husband's beast - but not before his cattle - and grind [flour]. What does grinding [flour] involve? [Not that the woman actually operates the mill herself,] but that she stays at the mill, sifts the flour and prods the animal [who turns the mill], so that [the operation of] the mill will not be hampered. If it is the [local] custom, for women to grind [flour] using a hand mill, [a woman] should grind [flour in this manner].

בַּמֶּה דְּבָרִים אֲמוּרִים בַּעֲנִיִּים אֲבָל אִם הִכְנִיסָה לוֹ שִׁפְחָה אַחַת אוֹ נְכָסִים שֶׁרָאוּי לִקְנוֹת מֵהֶן שִׁפְחָה אַחַת אוֹ שֶׁהָיְתָה לוֹ שִׁפְחָה אַחַת אוֹ שֶׁהָיָה לוֹ מָמוֹן כְּדֵי לִקְנוֹת מִמֶּנּוּ שִׁפְחָה אַחַת אֵינָהּ מְטַחֶנֶת וְלֹא אוֹפָה וְלֹא מְכַבֶּסֶת וְלֹא נוֹתֶנֶת תֶּבֶן לִפְנֵי בְּהֶמְתּוֹ. הִכְנִיסָה לוֹ שְׁתֵּי שְׁפָחוֹת אוֹ נְכָסִים הָרְאוּיִין לִקְנוֹת מֵהֶן שְׁתֵּי שְׁפָחוֹת אוֹ שֶׁהָיוּ לוֹ שְׁתֵּי שְׁפָחוֹת אוֹ שֶׁהָיָה רָאוּי לִקְנוֹת שְׁתֵּי שְׁפָחוֹת אֵינָהּ מְבַשֶּׁלֶת וְאֵינָהּ מֵינִיקָה אֶת בְּנָהּ אֶלָּא נוֹתֶנֶת אוֹתוֹ לַשִּׁפְחָה לְהֵינִיק:

When does the above apply? With regard to a poor [couple]. If, however, a woman brings a maid to [the household] or property with which a maid could be purchased, or if the man possesses a maid or funds with which a maid could be purchased, the wife is not required to grind [flour], to bake, to do laundry or to place straw before her husband's beast. If the wife brings two maids to [the household] or property with which two maids could be purchased, or if the man possesses two maids or is [wealthy] enough to purchase two maids, the wife is not required to cook or to nurse her child. Instead, she gives him to a maid to nurse.

נִמְצְאוּ כָּל הַמְּלָאכוֹת שֶׁכָּל אִשָּׁה עוֹשָׂה אוֹתָן לְבַעְלָהּ חָמֵשׁ מְלָאכוֹת. טוֹוָה וְרוֹחֶצֶת פָּנָיו יָדָיו וְרַגְלָיו וּמוֹזֶגֶת אֶת הַכּוֹס וּמַצַּעַת אֶת הַמִּטָּה וְעוֹמֶדֶת וּמְשַׁמֶּשֶׁת בְּפָנָיו. וְהַמְּלָאכוֹת שֶׁמִּקְצָת הַנָּשִׁים עוֹשׂוֹת אוֹתָן וּמִקְצָתָן אֵינָן עוֹשׂוֹת שֵׁשׁ מְלָאכוֹת. מְטַחֶנֶת וּמְבַשֶּׁלֶת וְאוֹפָה וּמְכַבֶּסֶת וּמֵינִיקָה וְנוֹתֶנֶת תֶּבֶן לִפְנֵי בְּהֶמְתּוֹ:

Thus, there are five tasks that every woman must perform on behalf of her husband: to spin [thread], to wash his face, hands and feet, to pour beverages for him, to make his bed and to do his bidding. And there are six tasks that some women perform and some women do not perform. They are: to grind [flour], to cook, to bake, to do laundry, to nurse, and to place straw before her husband's beast.

כָּל מְלָאכוֹת שֶׁהָאִשָּׁה עוֹשָׂה לְבַעְלָהּ נִדָּה עוֹשֶׂה לְבַעְלָהּ חוּץ מִמְּזִיגַת הַכּוֹס וְהַצָּעַת הַמִּטָּה וְהַרְחָצַת פָּנָיו יָדָיו וְרַגְלָיו גְּזֵרָה מִשּׁוּם הִרְהוּר שֶׁמָּא יָבוֹא לִבְעל. לְפִיכָךְ מַצַּעַת מִטָּתוֹ כְּשֶׁהִיא נִדָּה שֶׁלֹּא בְּפָנָיו וּמוֹזֶגֶת אֶת הַכּוֹס וְאֵינָהּ נוֹתֶנֶת אוֹתוֹ בְּיָדוֹ כְּדַרְכָּהּ תָּמִיד אֶלָּא מַנַּחַת אוֹתוֹ עַל הָאָרֶץ אוֹ עַל הַכְּלִי אוֹ עַל הַשֻּׁלְחָן וְהוּא נוֹטְלוֹ:

All the tasks that a woman must perform on behalf of her husband must also be performed by a woman while she is in the niddah state, with the exception of pouring beverages, making his bed and washing his face, hands and feet. [The rationale for the exceptions is that] this is a decree, [enacted] lest [sexual] thoughts arise, and the husband be prompted to engage in relations. Therefore, when she is in the niddah state, she should make his bed when he is not present. When pouring a beverage for him, she should not place it in his hand as is her usual practice, but rather leave it on the ground, on a utensil or on a table, and he will take it.

הָאִשָּׁה שֶׁשָּׁבְרָה כֵּלִים בְּעֵת שֶׁעָשְׂתָה מְלָאֲכוֹתֶיהָ בְּתוֹךְ בֵּיתָהּ פְּטוּרָה וְאֵין זֶה מִן הַדִּין אֶלָּא תַּקָּנָה שֶׁאִם אֵין אַתָּה אוֹמֵר כֵּן אֵין שָׁלוֹם בְּתוֹךְ הַבַּיִת לְעוֹלָם אֶלָּא נִמְצֵאת נִזְהֶרֶת וְנִמְנַעַת מֵרֹב הַמְּלָאכוֹת וְנִמְצֵאת קְטָטָה בֵּינֵיהֶם:

When a woman breaks utensils while performing household tasks, she is not held liable. This ruling does not reflect the dictates of the law, but is instead an enactment [of our Sages]. For if this were not the case, there would never be peace in a household. For a woman would be overly cautious and would refrain from performing many tasks, and there would thus be strife between [the couple].

כָּל אִשָּׁה שֶׁתִּמָּנַע מִלַּעֲשׂוֹת מְלָאכָה מִן הַמְּלָאכוֹת שֶׁהִיא חַיֶּבֶת לַעֲשׂוֹתָן כּוֹפִין אוֹתָהּ וְעוֹשָׂה אֲפִלּוּ בְּשׁוֹט. טָעַן הוּא שֶׁאֵינָהּ עוֹשָׂה וְהִיא אוֹמֶרֶת שֶׁאֵינָהּ נִמְנַעַת מִלַּעֲשׂוֹת מוֹשִׁיבִין אִשָּׁה בֵּינֵיהֶן אוֹ שְׁכֵנִים. וְדָבָר זֶה כְּפִי מַה שֶּׁיִּרְאֶה הַדַּיָּן שֶׁאֶפְשָׁר בַּדָּבָר:

Whenever a woman refrains from performing any of the tasks that she is obligated to perform, she may be compelled to do so, even with a rod. When a husband complains that [his wife] does not perform [her required tasks], and [the wife] claims that she does, [the dispute should be clarified by having] a [neutral] woman dwell with them or [by asking] the neighbors. The judges should clarify the matter in the best way they see fit.

הָאִשָּׁה כָּל זְמַן שֶׁהִיא מֵינִיקָה אֶת בְּנָהּ פּוֹחֲתִין לָהּ מִמַּעֲשֵׂה יָדֶיהָ וּמוֹסִיפִין לָהּ עַל מְזוֹנוֹתֶיהָ יַיִן וּדְבָרִים שֶׁיָּפִין לְחָלָב. פָּסְקוּ לָהּ מְזוֹנוֹת הָרְאוּיוֹת לָהּ וַהֲרֵי הִיא מִתְאַוָּה לֶאֱכל יוֹתֵר אוֹ לֶאֱכל מַאֲכָלוֹת אֲחֵרוֹת מִפְּנֵי חֳלִי הַתַּאֲוָה שֶׁיֵּשׁ לָהּ בְּבִטְנָהּ הֲרֵי זוֹ אוֹכֶלֶת מִשֶּׁלָּהּ כָּל מַה שֶּׁתִּרְצֶה וְאֵין הַבַּעַל יָכוֹל לְעַכֵּב וְלוֹמַר שֶׁאִם תֹּאכַל יוֹתֵר מִדַּאי אוֹ תֹּאכַל מַאֲכָלִים רָעִים יָמוּת הַוָּלָד מִפְּנֵי שֶׁצַּעַר גּוּפָהּ קוֹדֵם:

During the time a woman nurses her child, she is not compelled to perform as many tasks [as usual], and wine and foods that are beneficial to nursing are added to her support. If, despite the fact that she was allotted the foods appropriate for her, she desires to eat more or desires to eat other foods, because of the craving in her stomach, she is entitled to eat everything she desires [provided she pays for the additional food] from her own funds. The husband cannot prevent her, saying: "Perhaps she will overeat or eat harmful foods and the child will die." [The rationale is] that the physical pain the woman feels takes priority.

יָלְדָה תְּאוֹמִים אֵין כּוֹפִין אוֹתָהּ לְהֵינִיק שְׁנֵיהֶם אֶלָּא מֵינִיקָה אֶחָד וְשׂוֹכֵר הַבַּעַל מֵינִיקָה לַשֵּׁנִי. הֲרֵי שֶׁרָצְתָה הָאִשָּׁה לְהֵינִיק בֶּן חֲבֵרְתָהּ עִם בְּנָהּ הַבַּעַל מְעַכֵּב וְאֵינוֹ מַנִּיחָה אֶלָּא לְהֵינִיק בְּנוֹ בִּלְבַד:

When a woman bears twins, she cannot be compelled to nurse both of them. Instead, she is required to nurse one, while the husband is required to hire a nursemaid for the second child. If a woman desires to nurse another woman's child together with her own, her husband may object and restrict her to nursing only her own child.

נָדְרָה שֶׁלֹּא לְהֵינִיק אֶת בְּנָהּ כּוֹפֶה אוֹתָהּ וּמֵינִיקָתוֹ עַד שֶׁיִּהְיֶה בֶּן כ"ד חֹדֶשׁ אֶחָד הַזָּכָר וְאֶחָד הַנְּקֵבָה. הִיא אוֹמֶרֶת אֲנִי אֵינִיק אֶת בְּנִי וְהוּא אֵינוֹ רוֹצֶה שֶׁתֵּינִיק אִשְׁתּוֹ כְּדֵי שֶׁלֹּא תִּתְנַוֵּל אַף עַל פִּי שֶׁיֵּשׁ לָהּ כַּמָּה שְׁפָחוֹת שׁוֹמְעִין לָהּ שֶׁצַּעַר הוּא לָהּ לִפְרשׁ מִבְּנָהּ:

Although a woman takes a vow not to nurse her child, she may be compelled to do so until the child - whether a boy or a girl - is 24 months old. If a woman desires to nurse her child, but her husband objects, claiming that this will mar her beauty, she is given this prerogative, for it is painful for her to part from her child. [This law applies] even if she owns several maids.

הָיְתָה עֲנִיָּה שֶׁהִיא חַיֶּבֶת לְהֵינִיק אֶת בְּנָהּ וַהֲרֵי הוּא עָשִׁיר שֶׁרָאוּי לוֹ שֶׁלֹּא תֵּינִיק אִשְׁתּוֹ אַף עַל פִּי שֶׁאֵין לוֹ שְׁפָחוֹת אִם לֹא רָצְתָה לְהֵינִיק שׂוֹכֵר מֵינִיקָה אוֹ קוֹנֶה שִׁפְחָה מִפְּנֵי שֶׁהָאִשָּׁה עוֹלָה עִם בַּעְלָהּ וְאֵינָהּ יוֹרֶדֶת:

If she is poor and would thus be obligated to nurse her child, but her husband is rich, and it is appropriate that his wife not be obligated to nurse his child - if his wife does not desire to nurse, he must hire a nursemaid or buy a maid, even if he did not possess any maidservants beforehand. [The rationale is] that the woman's social standing rises together with that of her husband and does not descend with his.

הִיא אוֹמֶרֶת רָאוּי הוּא לִשְׂכֹּר אוֹ לִקְנוֹת שִׁפְחָה וְהוּא אוֹמֵר אֵינוֹ רָאוּי. עָלֶיהָ לְהָבִיא רְאָיָה וְאֵין כָּאן מָקוֹם לִשְׁבוּעָה:

If a woman claims that [her husband] is of [a social standing that] requires him to hire or purchase a maid, and he claims that he is not, the burden of proof is on the woman. [The husband] is not [required] to take an oath.

הָאִשָּׁה שֶׁנִּתְגָּרְשָׁה אֵין כּוֹפִין אוֹתָהּ לְהֵינִיק. אֶלָּא אִם רָצְתָה נוֹתֵן לָהּ שְׂכָרָהּ וּמֵינִיקָתוֹ. וְאִם לֹא רָצְתָה נוֹתֶנֶת לוֹ אֶת בְּנוֹ וְהוּא מְטַפֵּל בּוֹ. בַּמֶּה דְּבָרִים אֲמוּרִים שֶׁלֹּא הֵינִיקָה אוֹתוֹ עַד שֶׁהִכִּירָהּ. אֲבָל אִם הִכִּירָהּ וַאֲפִלּוּ הוּא סוּמָא אֵין מַפְרִישִׁין אוֹתוֹ מֵאִמּוֹ מִפְּנֵי סַכָּנַת הַוָּלָד. אֶלָּא כּוֹפִין אוֹתָהּ וּמֵינִיקָה אוֹתוֹ בְּשָׂכָר עַד כ"ד חֹדֶשׁ:

When a woman is divorced, she cannot be compelled to nurse [her child]. If she desires to nurse the child, [her ex-husband] must pay her a wage. If she does not desire [to nurse], she should give the son to his father, and he should care for him. When does the above apply? When she did not nurse the child long enough for him to recognize her. If, however, [the child is able] to recognize his mother, even if [the child] is blind, he should not be separated from his mother because of the [possible] danger [the separation will cause] the child. Instead, the woman is compelled to nurse the child for a wage until he reaches the age of 24 months.

הַגְּרוּשָׁה אֵין לָהּ מְזוֹנוֹת אַף עַל פִּי שֶׁהִיא מֵינִיקָה אֶת בְּנָהּ אֲבָל נוֹתֵן לָהּ יוֹתֵר עַל שְׂכָרָהּ דְּבָרִים שֶׁהַקָּטָן צָרִיךְ לָהֶן מִכְּסוּת וּמַאֲכָל וּמַשְׁקֶה וְסִיכָה וְכַיּוֹצֵא בָּזֶה. אֲבָל הַמְעֵבֶּרֶת אֵין לָהּ כְּלוּם. שָׁלְמוּ חֳדָשָׁיו וּגְמָלַתּוּ אִם רָצְתָה הַמְגֹרֶשֶׁת שֶׁיִּהְיֶה בְּנָהּ אֶצְלָהּ אֵין מַפְרִישִׁין אוֹתוֹ מִמֶּנָּה עַד שֶׁיִּהְיֶה בֶּן שֵׁשׁ שָׁנִים גְּמוּרוֹת. אֶלָּא כּוֹפִין אֶת אָבִיו וְנוֹתֵן לוֹ מְזוֹנוֹת וְהוּא אֵצֶל אִמּוֹ. וְאַחַר שֵׁשׁ שָׁנִים יֵשׁ לָאָב לוֹמַר אִם הוּא אֶצְלִי אֶתֵּן לוֹ מְזוֹנוֹת וְאִם הוּא אֵצֶל אִמּוֹ לֹא אֶתֵּן לוֹ מְזוֹנוֹת. וְהַבַּת אֵצֶל אִמָּהּ לְעוֹלָם וַאֲפִלּוּ לְאַחַר שֵׁשׁ:

[A husband] is not [obligated to] support his divorcee, even when she is nursing his child. In addition to the wage she receives [as a nursemaid], he must, however, provide her with those things that the child needs for clothing, food, drink, salves and the like. A woman who is pregnant is not entitled to any [payment] at all [from her ex-husband]. [The following rules apply after the 24] months have been completed, and the child has been weaned. If the divorcee desires that her son remain in her custody, he is not separated from her until he completes his sixth year [of life]. Instead, his father is compelled to provide him with his sustenance while he lives with his mother. After the child completes his sixth year, the father has the right to say: "If [my son] is in my custody, I will support him. If, however, he continues to live with his mother, I will not give him anything." A mother, by contrast, is given custody of her daughter forever, even after [she passes] the age of six.

כֵּיצַד. הָיָה הָאָב רָאוּי לִצְדָקָה מוֹצִיאִין מִמֶּנּוּ הָרָאוּי לוֹ בְּעַל כָּרְחוֹ וְזָנִין אוֹתָהּ וְהִיא אֵצֶל אִמָּהּ וַאֲפִלּוּ נִשֵּׂאת הָאֵם לְאַחֵר בִּתָּהּ אֶצְלָהּ וְאָבִיהָ זָן אוֹתָהּ מִשּׁוּם צְדָקָה עַד שֶׁיָּמוּת הָאָב וְתִזּוֹן מִנְּכָסָיו אַחַר מוֹתוֹ בִּתְנָאֵי כְּתֻבָּה וְהִיא אֵצֶל אִמָּהּ. וְאִם לֹא רָצְתָה הָאֵם שֶׁיִּהְיוּ בָּנֶיהָ אֶצְלָהּ אַחַר שֶׁגְּמָלָתָן אֶחָד זְכָרִים וְאֶחָד נְקֵבוֹת הָרְשׁוּת בְּיָדָהּ וְנוֹתֶנֶת אוֹתָן לַאֲבִיהֶן אוֹ מַשְׁלֶכֶת אוֹתָן לַקָּהָל אִם אֵין לָהֶן אָב וְהֵן מְטַפְּלִין בָּהֶן:

What is implied? If the father is [wealthy enough] to be obligated to give charity, the money necessary for his daughter's support should be expropriated from him and used to support the daughter, while she is in her mother's custody. Even if the mother marries another [man], her daughter remains in her custody, and the father is obligated to provide for her sustenance until his death, as an act of charity. [Moreover, even if the girl's] father dies, she is entitled to receive her sustenance from his estate, as a provision of [her mother's] ketubah, although she remains in her mother's custody. If a mother does not want her children - either males or females - to remain in her custody after she weans them, she has this prerogative, and she can give their father their custody, or make them wards of the community if there is no father, and [the community] must care for them.